It’s not that Serious

8 Dec

“I expect to maintain this contest until successful, or till I die, or am conquered, or my term expires, or Congress or the country forsakes me…” Abraham Lincoln–June 28, 1862 Letter to William H. Seward

1831 – Failed in business
1832 – Defeated for legislature

1833 – Again failed in business

1834 – Elected to legislature

1835 – Sweetheart died
1836 – Had a nervous breakdown
1838 – Defeated for speaker
1840 – Defeated for elector
1843 – Defeated for Congress
1846 – Elected for Congress
1848 – Defeated for Congress
1855 – Defeated for Senate
1856 – Defeated for Vice-President
1858 – Defeated for Senate

Everyone should be familiar with the story of Abraham Lincoln’s pursuit of happiness. This man was publicly humiliated for three decades before he finally became the president of the United States of America. Among his many achievements was pioneering abolishment of slavery.

This is not a history paper that was just an illustration of a determination that paid off in the end. For some reason I am always able to relate with underdogs and I sometimes try to reach out to them. Maybe I can relate to them as sometimes I have found myself loosing when I completely believe I ought to have won. I have also found myself in a situation where I am good enough but the only problem is someone else is just a little bit better. It bemuses me that some people think I always get everything I want so easily. Perhaps if I was in pursuit of such public conquests the whole world would know I fail every now and then. However I still do not think it would hit me so bad, I would probably keep trying like Lincoln. There would be nothing to lose except for pride (some would say dignity but I disagree).

One of my favourite phrases is “It’s not that serious” I say it so often and that’s because people take things too seriously. I remember saying it to a group member who was freaking out during a group project and she burst out “this determines the rest of my life”. I told her “how can it determine the rest of your life when it’s only 50 % of 20% of 40% of your degree” hahaha apologies to anyone who can’t do the maths. People close or even distant to me know that I am somewhat ambitious and well want to get good grades, but I never would let that kill me. She was shocked at my reaction but all I was telling her was to calm down, that as a group we were doing the best we could and panicking is just unwanted drama!! In the end miss drama queen calmed down and we got on with our work. And at the end of the project she thanked me for all my help and for saving the group by answering an unexpected question that was thrown to us by the panel. So much for the girl whose motto is “It’s not that serious” right?!!

Don’t get me wrong, things are serious but just not that! I generally avoid people who bring stress to my life, negative energy is toxic and I am not ready to be intoxicated. Downbeat people, Kill Joys, pessimistic people, off-putting people, running out of synonyms but you get the drift I am allergic to them all!!!!!!!

6 Responses to “It’s not that Serious”

  1. Anonymous December 8, 2010 at 8:01 am #

    its not that serious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hehe

  2. Rita Diamonds December 8, 2010 at 10:12 am #

    lol It really isn't 🙂

  3. Anonymous December 11, 2010 at 3:37 pm #

    Nice post, but I'm offended; what's 50% of 20% of 40%? And how many percent of the rest of that girl's life was her degree?"things are serious but not that (serious)!" What is 'that'? So I can determine its seriousness and ensure that the magnitude of the seriousness of 'things' don't get up to that of 'that'.

  4. Rita Diamonds December 11, 2010 at 4:11 pm #

    thank you 🙂 lol whoever you are I love you already!…well the project was 50% of 20 credit module which is 20% percent of 40% of our degree…Its not like I was unreasonable on purpose but I just rather get work done than stay to complain about how much we have to do…panicking etc…Please don't be offended we did well in the end…I had done my part of the work ages before the rest of the group so I guess I did not understand her frustration….I came across as nonchalant at that point in time especially as I was not in town the day before(mind you for a very important reason)…but even-though I had done my work I was helping other people in the group that were struggling…I and everyone felt she was busy trying to show superiority…but I was the only one to voice out my opinion…After a guy in the group approached me to join forces with him and score her low for peer assessment but I declined and told him that though she was unbearable she had undeniably worked really hard…I have taken certain things too seriously in the past and when I look back I realise I should have had some fun along the way…The project is gone now, I would say my greatest achievement there was teasing a group member about not having a facebook account till he made one :D'That' in that context means not as serious as how serious you think it is. Take the seriousness a few levels down and then you are good to go…Anyway go on youtube and watch this video Learn how to dougie and you will be just fine xoxo

  5. A_hu_u_ December 11, 2010 at 5:53 pm #

    lol…I tried learning the dougie last week 🙂

  6. Rita Diamonds December 11, 2010 at 5:57 pm #


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